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The Wired Word for 11/24/2024 ![rw-book-cover](https://readwise-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/static/images/article1.be68295a7e40.png) ## Metadata - Author: [[The Wired Word]] - Full Title: The Wired Word for 11/24/2024 - Category: #articles - Document Note: --- tags: [#thanksgiving, #conflictresolution, #relationships, #faith] - #thanksgiving - #conflictresolution - #relationships - #faith Author: Communication Resources Source: The Wired Word Reference: WIFR, NPR, and other cited sources date created: 2024-11-24 16:00 --- # Title: Managing Thanksgiving Disagreements With Faith and Respect ## Table of Contents: - [📝 Summary](#📝-summary) - [📖 Main Content](#📖-main-content) - [🗒️ Notes](#🗒️-notes) - [📖 References](#📖-references) - [🗣️ Paraphrase](#🗣️-paraphrase) - [📰 Newsletter](#📰-newsletter) - [✅ Action Items](#✅-action-items) - [🧪 Hypotheses](#🧪-hypotheses) - [📊 Methodology](#📊-methodology) - [❓ Questions](#❓-questions) - [🔮 Future Research](#🔮-future-research) - [💡 Implications](#💡-implications) - [🧠 Learning Styles Assessment](#🧠-learning-styles-assessment) - [📊 Accessibility Assessment](#📊-accessibility-assessment) - [🌍 DEIB Assessment](#🌍-deib-assessment) - [✅ Logical Validity](#✅-logical-validity) - [🔍 DARVO Analysis](#🔍-darvo-analysis) - [🔍 SEO Evaluation](#🔍-seo-evaluation) - [🎯 Conclusion](#🎯-conclusion) ## 📝 Summary: Thanksgiving is a time of gratitude and connection, but political disagreements can create tension. Surveys show many Americans avoid discussing politics at the table. Experts recommend setting boundaries and focusing on activities that foster unity. The article ties these strategies to biblical teachings, emphasizing reconciliation, soft answers, and gratitude. ## 📖 Main Content: This article addresses the widespread anxiety surrounding Thanksgiving gatherings due to political tensions. It offers practical advice from relationship experts and draws upon biblical principles to guide readers in managing conflicts gracefully. Key themes include respect, understanding, and gratitude. ### 🗒️ Notes - **Survey Highlights**: - 64% of Americans feel election-related stress impacts Thanksgiving. - 59% worry about political disagreements at gatherings. - 49% advocate for a "no politics" rule at the table. - **Expert Suggestions**: - Avoid harsh, judgmental language. - Use empathetic phrases like "Can you help me understand?" or "Let’s agree to disagree." - Engage in board games or other distractions to shift focus. - **Biblical Insights**: - **Genesis 33:10**: Reconciliation transforms relationships. - **Proverbs 15:1**: Gentle words defuse anger. - **Philippians 4:6**: Gratitude replaces anxiety with peace. - **James 1:19-20**: Listening and patience foster righteousness. # Answers to Article Questions ## The Big Questions: ### 1. Will you be attending a Thanksgiving meal this week? What are you excited about? What worries you? What gives you stress? - **Excited about**: Spending time with family, enjoying good food, and sharing gratitude. - **Worried about**: Potential political disagreements or misunderstandings during conversations. - **Stressors**: Balancing diverse opinions while maintaining a harmonious atmosphere. ### 2. Have you ever experienced arguments with family members or friends during the holidays? What sparked the conflict? How was it defused, if at all? - **Experience**: Yes, disagreements about political issues have arisen in past family gatherings. - **Cause**: Strong, opposing views about political candidates or policies. - **Resolution**: The conflict was defused by redirecting the conversation to shared memories or engaging in group activities like board games. ### 3. If you expect that political differences will be a flash point, what will you do to set boundaries or create distractions, if anything? What kind of conversation would you prefer to have, and how will you manage the conversation? - **Boundaries**: Establish a “no politics” rule for the meal, with a focus on gratitude and personal updates. - **Distractions**: Include interactive games, a gratitude jar, or light-hearted storytelling to steer the conversation in a positive direction. - **Preferred Conversation**: Share family stories, discuss future plans, or reflect on what everyone is thankful for. - **Management**: Gently redirect discussions away from divisive topics and encourage inclusivity. ### 4. When have you been on the receiving end of a harsh statement, and how did you respond? When have you spoken harshly to another person, and what effect did it have on your relationship? - **Receiving End**: A family member once dismissed my opinion with a harsh comment. I responded by calmly stating my perspective and changing the subject to de-escalate tension. - **Speaking Harshly**: In a moment of frustration, I once criticized someone’s viewpoint. It led to hurt feelings and required an apology to mend the relationship. ### 5. If you would like to keep Thanksgiving centered on gratitude to God, how will you maintain this focus? What benefit will come from doing this, if any? - **Maintain Focus**: Begin the meal with a prayer of gratitude, encourage everyone to share what they are thankful for, and highlight the blessings of the year. - **Benefits**: Strengthening relationships, fostering a positive atmosphere, and aligning the gathering with the true spirit of Thanksgiving. --- ## Confronting the News With Scripture and Hope: ### Genesis 33:10 - What does it mean to you to show favor to a friend or family member, even in a time of stress and conflict? After a time of struggle, how can our encounters with family members be like "seeing the face of God"? What attitudes toward each other can make such a vision possible? - **Show Favor**: Extending kindness, patience, and forgiveness even when emotions run high. - **Seeing God in Others**: Moments of reconciliation reflect divine grace and highlight the sacredness of relationships. - **Enabling Attitudes**: Compassion, humility, and a willingness to understand and forgive are essential. ### Proverbs 15:1 - What might it mean to you to bring a "soft answer" to a Thanksgiving conversation? What good comes from speaking with a "gentle tongue"? What comes out of being "hot-tempered" at the table? Be specific. - **Soft Answer**: Responding calmly and respectfully to diffuse tension. - **Benefits of a Gentle Tongue**: Creates a welcoming atmosphere, fosters mutual respect, and prevents escalation. - **Consequences of Hot-Tempered Speech**: Increases conflict, creates lasting hurt, and undermines relationships. ### Philippians 4:6 - How does a spirit of gratitude affect you, at Thanksgiving and throughout the year? What could you do to keep it at the center of the holiday? When have you found your anxiety being reduced by bringing your requests to God, if at all? How can you let your "gentleness be known to everyone"? - **Gratitude's Effect**: Encourages contentment, reduces stress, and fosters a positive outlook. - **Keeping Gratitude Central**: Focus on shared blessings, thankfulness activities, and prayer. - **Anxiety and Prayer**: Turning to God in prayer has brought peace during stressful times. - **Gentleness**: Show understanding, patience, and respect in all interactions. ### James 1:19-20 - What good comes from being "quick to listen" and "slow to speak"? When, if ever, is anger a positive force? When, if ever, does it work against "God's righteousness"? - **Quick to Listen**: Strengthens understanding, prevents misunderstandings, and shows respect. - **Positive Anger**: Rarely beneficial, but can motivate change when channeled constructively. - **Against Righteousness**: Anger often leads to impulsive actions and strained relationships, contradicting God’s call to love and patience. --- ## For Further Discussion: ### 1. How should we approach the prospect of breaking bread—or not—with people whose beliefs or actions sometimes seem to grate at the very core of what we believe to be right and good? - **Approach**: Find common ground, set boundaries if necessary, and focus on shared values like family and gratitude. - **Christian Alignment**: Reflecting Christ’s love by showing grace, patience, and forgiveness. ### 2. Which non-table Thanksgiving activities appeal to you, and how might they reduce stress? - **Appealing Activities**: Writing thank-you notes, gratitude jar, or playing charades. - ** - Summary: Thanksgiving is this Thursday, and many Americans are worried about disagreements among family members and friends around the table. Dear Class Members, Thanksgiving is this Thursday, and many Americans are worried about disagreements among family members and friends around the table. In light of this widespread concern, this installment of *The Wired Word* will address how we can manage gathering with people whose views are different from our own, and what insight the Bible gives us into how we can live together with diverse points of view. ![](https://www.thewiredword.com/_img/tww_logo_email.jpg) **Many Americans Worry About Thanksgiving Disagreements*****The Wired Word*** **for the Week of November 24, 2024** **In the News** Many family members and friends will gather for Thanksgiving this week, but a new survey from Spruce reveals that a majority of Americans are planning to avoid talking about politics. Nearly a quarter of those surveyed (23%) are considering skipping the holiday entirely, in order to avoid family stress. According to *WIFR*, the survey looked at 2,000 people across all 50 states, and it included an equal number of men and women. Participants were adults between the ages of 25 and 65 who regularly celebrate Thanksgiving. Of those surveyed, 64% said election-related stress is impacting their holiday plans. The survey found that 59% are worried about political disagreements causing tension at their Thanksgiving gatherings, 49% want to have a total ban on political conversations for all guests and family members, and 63% plan to set boundaries around political discussions to prevent conflict. Such concerns are shared across the political spectrum. 52% say Trump-supporting family members are the source of their anxiety, while 48% say Harris-supporting family members are the source of their anxiety. These concerns are nothing new, since 52% report that they have already had arguments with their family members over political differences. "I'm disgusted by the blood I carry in my veins because I'm related to these people," said one young woman to *NPR*. Family and relationship experts at Spruce have some suggestions for people who want to enjoy Thanksgiving without politics getting the way. Families are encouraged to set boundaries ahead of time, creating a "no politics" rule for Thanksgiving guests. Not showing the news on television during the gathering is another way to shift conversations in a harmonious direction. Activities such as board games can also distract people from political topics. "And if a conversation does get heated," say the Spruce experts, "know when to walk away." Anna Goldfarb, author of the book *Modern Friendship*, is convinced that political differences alone do not end friendships. Instead, harsh reactions are what tend to cause problems. She makes suggestions about how to navigate potentially tense moments with friends and family members. She advises people to avoid harsh statements such as "I should have known you'd have that view. It's typical of people from your background." ... "I guess you don't care about the future of our country if you think that way." ... "I can't believe you actually believe that. It's like you don't even care about facts." ... "You're just parroting what you hear on [insert news outlet]. You should think for yourself." Goldfarb says that such "judgy statements not only isolate your friend, but also make the friendship feel suffocating." In place of harsh reactions, she recommends comments such as "Can you help me understand why this policy is important to you?" ... "It's okay that we have different opinions on this. I appreciate hearing your side." ... "I respect that we don't see eye to eye on this. Let's agree to disagree." ... "It's great that we both care about improving things, even if we have different ideas on how to do it." ... "I appreciate hearing your opinions. Let's keep this conversation open and respectful." ... "Even though we disagree, I'm glad we can have these conversations. It helps me see things from different angles." "I'm not saying you have to agree with everything a friend says," concludes Goldfarb, "and of course some policies are so abhorrent that it feels you have no other choice but to disengage. But you do have to show respect to one another if you want to continue a friendship. And, the way I see it, I have a much better chance of helping a friend see my perspective if we keep the conversation flowing rather than shutting it all down." At the Thanksgiving table, no one has to be labeled as good or bad. Author Britt Barron writes, "We are always trying to make a world where there are heroes and villains, good and evil, right and wrong, and where we can be the heroes, where we can be good and right. People love categories and boxes and clean lines." But people are complicated, and it is important to acknowledge this truth, especially if people want to expand their understanding and grow closer to family members and friends. 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Decide if you will ignore political comments, speak up, disengage, or take another approach. Look to the Bible for guidance on how you can manage differences around the table. **The Big Questions** 1. Will you be attending a Thanksgiving meal this week? What are you excited about? What worries you? What gives you stress? 2. Have you ever experienced arguments with family members or friends during the holidays? What sparked the conflict? How was it defused, if at all? 3. If you expect that political differences will be a flash point, what will you do to set boundaries or create distractions, if anything? What kind of conversation would you prefer to have, and how will you manage the conversation? 4. When have you been on the receiving end of a harsh statement, and how did you respond? When have you spoken harshly to another person, and what effect did it have on your relationship? 5. If you would like to keep Thanksgiving centered on gratitude to God, how will you maintain this focus? What benefit will come from doing this, if any? **Confronting the News With Scripture and Hope**Here are some Bible verses to guide your discussion: **Genesis 33:10***Jacob said, "No, please; if I find favor with you, then accept my present from my hand, for truly to see your face is like seeing the face of God, since you have received me with such favor."* (For context, read [Genesis 33:1-17](https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxdxvwvUIbrGNsYJ-2B9LkHJNYWrwchS4YgSGWO6KgSEtKPMgl0lioHgflzxDhBy98Qe9jVX_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2jGOcOvPoq16xy-2BrjE1NmSCPScOk-2B5Bmk1AJdxLSUZuj6ai5Obsfdhppg5KELAIKpLbyXSjBoa-2FfUZ75c0cE5Vyu7lV-2BlDVK8sVzi-2FPStapVMPpGGSACA-2BGcMTVmcqK-2F4cextkNn3eQeoqF64EMgWixhcE5E5J5MuqQvytJ-2B7cZ2TvlNZqcwDN-2FWhY7qzqv1OJw-2B38UlWHuKpDsY5PBJOtA-3D).) The conflict between Esau and his twin brother Jacob began even before they were born to Isaac and Rebekah, when they "struggled together within her" (25:22). When they grew up, Jacob convinced Esau to sell him his birthright, and then later Jacob tricked his father Isaac in order to obtain the blessing that Esau deserved. To escape Esau's hatred, Jacob fled to his uncle Laban's house and married Leah and Rachel. After many years, Jacob decided to return home, but he was distressed when he heard that Esau was coming to meet him, along with 400 men. He slept alone by the river Jabbok, "and a man wrestled with him until daybreak" (32:24). Jacob prevailed in the struggle, and the man blessed him. Then Jacob said, "I have seen God face to face, yet my life is preserved" (32:30). The next morning, Jacob looked up and saw Esau coming with 400 men. Jacob bowed to the ground seven times, and was surprised when "Esau ran to meet him and embraced him and fell on his neck and kissed him, and they wept" (33:4). The passage of time had changed Esau, and he now sought reconciliation instead of revenge. At their meeting, Jacob intended to give Esau a present, but Esau said, "I have enough, my brother; keep what you have for yourself" (33:9). Jacob said, "if I find favor with you, then accept my present from my hand, for truly to see your face is like seeing the face of God, since you have received me with such favor." After struggling with God by the river, Jacob realized that seeing Esau was "like seeing the face of God." > **Questions:** What does it mean to you to show favor to a friend or family member, even in a time of stress and conflict? After a time of struggle, how can our encounters with family members be like "seeing the face of God"? What attitudes toward each other can make such a vision possible? **Proverbs 15:1***A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.* (No context needed.) The book of Proverbs contains words of wisdom and instruction for the people of Israel, with authorship credited to Solomon, the son of David and king of Israel (1:1). In the first chapter, Wisdom is personified as a woman, and she promises that "those who listen to me will be secure and will live at ease without dread of disaster" (1:33). Right speech is an important aspect of wisdom, and the 15th chapter begins by saying, "A soft answer turns away wrath," suggesting that anger will be deflected by words that are not offered with out-of-control emotion. On the other hand, "a harsh word stirs up anger," as is seen in the "harsh words" that are found in so much political discourse today. The chapter goes on to say that a "gentle tongue is a tree of life" (v. 4), the "lips of the wise spread knowledge" (v. 7), and those "who are hot-tempered stir up strife" (v. 18). In all of these proverbs, the focus is on the value of soft answers and gentle tongues, in contrast to harsh words and hot-tempered discussion. > **Questions:** What might it mean to you to bring a "soft answer" to a Thanksgiving conversation? What good comes from speaking with a "gentle tongue"? What comes out of being "hot-tempered" at the table? Be specific. **Philippians 4:6***Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.* (For context, read [Philippians 4:4-7](https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxzNGX396sVFOaUcnbldjl-2BE8azP-2BOBAgEmCQ-2BTi96Absixye5cmKroe5ol1a-2FJsbazgOi_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2gS9PFvJLteerqED9RDWwpxP59tsARtk95YfX-2B2R-2F1-2FCl8or4RWilZJDtp47xXubJiFAzdBB00S0egfMBbZ3N1SseJVifQ1bN0DO80ST7QgqYvBMnkROHtIBr6mNj8Fm-2B4aF9a6-2FCqATfJhnmCdf5IYgE7oYjh-2F6glGgItvyAuoRJFOyuJNZCvLSPtRnGGZ52NyArB1R-2Br78vfet1IZPCls-3D).) The apostle Paul wrote this letter to the followers of Christ at Philippi, a major Greek city and colony of the Roman Empire. He was imprisoned by Rome while he wrote it, and he saw the Philippians as "partners in God's grace, both in my imprisonment and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel" (1:7). There is a warmth and sweetness in the letter which comes through when he says, "I thank my God for every remembrance of you" (1:3). Given Paul's imprisonment, the upbeat tone of the letter is surprising. "Rejoice in the Lord always," he says; "again I will say, Rejoice. Let your gentleness be known to everyone. The Lord is near" (4:4-5). Paul fully expected Jesus to return at any time, which enabled him to rejoice in all things, and to show gentleness in every stressful situation. He encouraged the Philippians by saying, "Do not be anxious about anything, but ... with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God." He predicted that the "peace of God" would guard their hearts and minds more securely than any Roman guard. > **Questions:** How does a spirit of gratitude affect you, at Thanksgiving and throughout the year? What could you do to keep it at the center of the holiday? When have you found your anxiety being reduced by bringing your requests to God, if at all? How can you let your "gentleness be known to everyone"? **James 1:19-20***You must understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger, for human anger does not produce God's righteousness.* (For context, read [James 1:19-25](https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxNIqZG-2B-2B-2BvBBz5qy3Z-2Fu623Y7vXdrOk7YHuQU3mkQXWtJQmCfFOvtAbLq9qFcTpNBZ7P-_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2lVcAnELRbsAAE-2FbWhVV66ZX3zTBlHx2-2BgAQ0WPdlE9HdWvw1nncM7qKMNoskndUgF77d3CU0M1xwob0dBTOa8Lz-2BzitNrAy-2BZDrQH8uWMomu8LAPLHzLVT6FJFJeqK19khd2hLiACKN1fXI2I6GnUrzYqYgBxiXeRaDCFiVt5KUAfmBLtWxFjjN1dDNdm-2FIK-2F7DUJOogh8mXF5IW8hdc-2BE-3D).) The letter of James is traditionally thought to be written by the brother of Jesus. He wrote to a group of Christ-followers who lived "in the dispersion" (1:1). They had grown up Jewish and had roots in Israel, but were now living across the Mediterranean region. James tried to encourage and guide these believers as they faced issues of proper communication and care for the poor. In the first chapter, James gives guidance for communication, encouraging people to "be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger." Echoing the book of Proverbs, he reminds them that "human anger does not produce God's righteousness." He then encourages followers of Christ to "welcome with meekness the implanted word that has the power to save your souls" (v. 21). TWW Consultant James Gruetzner writes, "I have a dear college friend who has a significantly different political persuasion than I ... When we do discuss politics, we are polite, but also straightforward in our discussions. ... That makes it much easier to retain a friendship despite disagreements: We recognize that the other is not *evil --* and is, in fact, well-meaning -- but is (to each of us, respectively) *mistaken --* either about the situation or the effects of the political proposal." > **Questions:** What good comes from being "quick to listen" and "slow to speak"? When, if ever, is anger a positive force? When, if ever, does it work against "God's righteousness"? > How can your words at Thanksgiving be aligned with God's words and God's saving work in the world? **For Further Discussion** 1. [NPR asks the question](https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPHqYzlFhngTMk0G9-2F-2BQ1rl-2F1OHIP5GmsyjxDEZkTHkZVzye2LPOcMDanzIxYcw2TxPSdJ9U8rLj4Q9zu9O70EqHuIu1uIRb0KLatf53OJJkEc8r475fjA3pBQ1c2Q0v7c982VviRiYMgJVysE-2BuChXQ-3DyQJm_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2plwdV-2B6gc1RyVGs7lYOfGYvKOoOeJy4KKpNxKWKGlDknRBzwjcglGAEn6Wol34GXtXOKbHY0FIt0LmbhAwap28Ig705z18xTzr4ECjQ9LhwOrIrKQIZqGLNkaIEMnlTsIIQkuzosthj7eYBbY0GSWCRSV9pAg-2F19e9Sx5G6s0A5aAAodq0PN64NN9szjDrSXJb4HyHBbDGJGgHlVcuBeqw-3D), "How should we approach the prospect of breaking bread -- or not -- with people whose beliefs or actions sometimes seem to grate at the very core of what we believe to be right and good?" Do you opt out? Set boundaries? Find allies? Look for common ground? Or find another approach? What approach is most closely aligned with your Christian beliefs, and why? 2. There are many ways to celebrate Thanksgiving that do not involve extended conversation around a table: Express gratitude (write thank-you notes, start a gratitude jar) ... Give back (volunteer at a soup kitchen or food drive) ... Play games (Pictionary or charades) ... Watch movies or parades (watch a marathon of Thanksgiving movies or the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade). Which of these appeals to you, and how might it reduce stress? 3. Psychiatrist William Glasser has created a list of the [Seven Deadly Disconnection Habits](https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPC4kGtxMUddFv1QX0-2F7c6Z1tAhUK7GRbAR2u6JTgVvVxHEN8XZZ-2FjUD4FX2FsQ4OLcfwexEcOZEe1KvnJ5jB0qo-3D8zzO_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2gi8ti7gnxT-2FA8I6YcFMBnSJJwfidisnS9SgjxTYDDhK3hUmVDxNohf7CbB-2FCmThsQM5abxMAaBMmPauVG-2FtYzZm5-2BwnJo4BPJvI7o7gJMInxOveytmsOUeby1kSnwvWXq4l03YddCeYISZlAT2qAXxJrbknEL0vSMqk8RUT8Dq5WKLgKoVqLqJ5rSQkeXqVXPtBdtmmR19EmoJ1zpFmgFA-3D) which include complaining, criticizing, blaming, nagging, threatening, punishing, bribing or rewarding to control. When, if ever, have you encountered one of these behaviors at a holiday meal? How did you react? When, if ever, have you engaged in one of those behaviors, and what was the outcome? What Christian response might move the conversation from disconnection to connection? 4. The letter of James speaks of the constructive and destructive power of our words. "From the same mouth comes a blessing and a curse. My brothers and sisters, this ought not to be so" ([James 3:10](https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxet2swTq-2BGS6FHLkXI-2BXT4p04ypEk73jsDr9OCthVXUC8uTYW-2FaU7jXadvYwh2P87-Jwa_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2tYvH90tSZkUKZQf1DPg6wsV3k3EMhMLUkk4b6y2AxR7FyKnnOE5-2ByDJjZFpzHwKryFm1VV5t4d8nGwnNqeO4tvPNTtu2M8W-2B6ERu5hI2wf-2BZVfVkFW-2Bg3mcwyXyAnmZdrprLjomyJhkoQdz1NTOPN7BYJ2FBczg9rhVRCJBrXaeMFNGip1DX0FO-2FEB8sxKtpaGxDwgwwoXceEvkQUcply4-3D)). What words at Thanksgiving would be a blessing to you this year? What words would feel like a curse? How can you use your mouth to bless instead of curse? Offer specific examples. **Responding to the News** If you gather with family and friends for Thanksgiving, look for the face of God in the person across the table from you. Use a soft answer to turn away anger. Be gentle. Bring a spirit of gratitude to the meal. Do your best to be quick to listen and slow to speak. Make your words a blessing to others, to the best of your ability. **Prayer** We praise you, Lord, for all of your goodness to us. You have given us more than we need or deserve. Help us to be grateful people as we celebrate Thanksgiving this week, and use us to bring peace and reconciliation to this world you love so much. In Jesus' name. Amen. ****Copyright 2024 Communication Resources**** [Unsubscribe From This List](https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/asm/unsubscribe/?user_id=14323725&data=uW13jBqK1Jk6MoEcVlttwBjyTjxgA1oNhdQTKMA7CK1oMDAwdTAwMGP-v2BD6BBa60OFooZNVz_gprU3gkXqJcpmA42_whULLOoxgvFhfhWAx3WYrafhmxXZK0wVliLCGED3xT25PQSLkKmNPr_KGeVPiQvcMFZpYJjcQ-dRAtqDXt1UX7R0TroNqJ3tl8B5ymBUvVOzxm7gRMuY07sPxya5orU2PJk0_WAiC0A6LebuywnkBw9o3zH6nneNtt-sVs3aAtb3Nrj_MFNEXI-Lsb3csR3WtKBj12mwndCEK9pWHOAUz0TWkkXyf3aMwQUz47eKyCGAppHD86gbnil7HMQIuSg83HpFWosC9Z2thX-8yRWVUrZNK33kz9_x6K0FDCmwIA7ZoFubM0nPvP8SbG3G6uEdufbvZGxA9lypV86W03aUn_xEGWZcCr1llACmBKrjG4cJA_ulXqLkqLtHTNnBwQSm0XLA4_c1GeRBURXtPNwb30zSFtgRRK1S7_SISlvOM6kJ6V-i56kTFqNQHjk5iAxdkjtiT21u4zHkne3_-9ZwZDFEEblqCi34ByjryXJFH_eDkfdTcTGPscRE2ghxVVdzJkVwNhd1gv6xffYaeAqYleoVJh2lbr0yQ4nNytKBtjLQqXA=) <div>Dear Class Members, Thanksgiving is this Thursday, and many Americans are worried about disagreements among family members and friends around the table. In light of this widespread concern, this installment of The Wired Word will address how we can manage gathering with people whose views are different from our own, and what insight the Bible gives us into how we can live together with diverse points of view. <center><img src="https://www.thewiredword.com/\_img/tww\_logo\_email.jpg"/></center> Many Americans Worry About Thanksgiving Disagreements The Wired Word for the Week of November 24, 2024 In the News <div style="mso-element: para-border-div; border-top: windowtext 1.0pt; border-bottom: windowtext 1.0pt; border-style: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; background: white;"> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">Many family members and friends will gather for Thanksgiving this week, but a new survey from Spruce reveals that a majority of Americans are planning to avoid talking about politics. Nearly a quarter of those surveyed (23%) are considering skipping the holiday entirely, in order to avoid family stress. <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">According to WIFR, the survey looked at 2,000 people across all 50 states, and it included an equal number of men and women. Participants were adults between the ages of 25 and 65 who regularly celebrate Thanksgiving. Of those surveyed, 64% said election-related stress is impacting their holiday plans. <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">The survey found that 59% are worried about political disagreements causing tension at their Thanksgiving gatherings, 49% want to have a total ban on political conversations for all guests and family members, and 63% plan to set boundaries around political discussions to prevent conflict. <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">Such concerns are shared across the political spectrum. 52% say Trump-supporting family members are the source of their anxiety, while 48% say Harris-supporting family members are the source of their anxiety. These concerns are nothing new, since 52% report that they have already had arguments with their family members over political differences. "I'm disgusted by the blood I carry in my veins because I'm related to these people," said one young woman to NPR. <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">Family and relationship experts at Spruce have some suggestions for people who want to enjoy Thanksgiving without politics getting the way. Families are encouraged to set boundaries ahead of time, creating a "no politics" rule for Thanksgiving guests. Not showing the news on television during the gathering is another way to shift conversations in a harmonious direction. Activities such as board games can also distract people from political topics. "And if a conversation does get heated," say the Spruce experts, "know when to walk away." <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">Anna Goldfarb, author of the book Modern Friendship, is convinced that political differences alone do not end friendships. Instead, harsh reactions are what tend to cause problems. She makes suggestions about how to navigate potentially tense moments with friends and family members. <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">She advises people to avoid harsh statements such as "I should have known you'd have that view. It's typical of people from your background." ... "I guess you don't care about the future of our country if you think that way." ... "I can't believe you actually believe that. It's like you don't even care about facts." ... "You're just parroting what you hear on [insert news outlet]. You should think for yourself." <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">Goldfarb says that such "judgy statements not only isolate your friend, but also make the friendship feel suffocating." In place of harsh reactions, she recommends comments such as "Can you help me understand why this policy is important to you?" ... "It's okay that we have different opinions on this. I appreciate hearing your side." ... "I respect that we don't see eye to eye on this. Let's agree to disagree." ... "It's great that we both care about improving things, even if we have different ideas on how to do it." ... "I appreciate hearing your opinions. Let's keep this conversation open and respectful." ... "Even though we disagree, I'm glad we can have these conversations. It helps me see things from different angles." <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">"I'm not saying you have to agree with everything a friend says," concludes Goldfarb, "and of course some policies are so abhorrent that it feels you have no other choice but to disengage. But you do have to show respect to one another if you want to continue a friendship. And, the way I see it, I have a much better chance of helping a friend see my perspective if we keep the conversation flowing rather than shutting it all down." <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">At the Thanksgiving table, no one has to be labeled as good or bad. Author Britt Barron writes, "We are always trying to make a world where there are heroes and villains, good and evil, right and wrong, and where we can be the heroes, where we can be good and right. People love categories and boxes and clean lines." But people are complicated, and it is important to acknowledge this truth, especially if people want to expand their understanding and grow closer to family members and friends. </div> More on this story can be found at these links: <div style="mso-element: para-border-div; border-top: windowtext 1.0pt; border-bottom: windowtext 1.0pt; border-style: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; background: white;"> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;"><a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPC84jfSBeKKoIMV6jHgf8qHoiaUzEl0oz5G9wly1-2FXAoB-2BphPvTCXGXtN3UeWnQvTEA5eU8ysZmuqe-2F2B9Ax3pHuIrQMQYLuW6rY4Il-2Fkgx7A1zgIKWt53OhQK1KpTDufsx3WwmmdOybcWFgIwaXa5YLKG3UxlGD9QlbA-2BbRpV-2FDbZCV\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2qKpHIPw85wBEbPEhyIHa6oDnXzNCCI4B7KG1TSAO0g5GLM70cQUZ3GG6IQugvZG3-2BbSYXXQGqzdvvhCpmBUFh77QXwWpNvH1sLxtFo0Qb5Dcrp1NG0ibDa63xOY0fIVDYQLb-2BlAG-2BQ9X1Y9vjWu3-2FyAITxPP3oMmB8Nrqwz7Q-2FjVBBzW4pLqNf-2FDUEiq6B5AG5-2B6pKaA1ud81MfeCgomFM-3D">Nearly a Quarter of Americans Are Considering Skipping Thanksgiving to Avoid Talking About Politics. </a><a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPC84jfSBeKKoIMV6jHgf8qHoiaUzEl0oz5G9wly1-2FXAoB-2BphPvTCXGXtN3UeWnQvTEA5eU8ysZmuqe-2F2B9Ax3pHuIrQMQYLuW6rY4Il-2Fkgx7A1zgIKWt53OhQK1KpTDufsx3WwmmdOybcWFgIwaXa5YLKG3UxlGD9QlbA-2BbRpV-2FD\_Tb6\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2vYTN8ANPiNmWPCyd72MusGXYrvDewd9fNWkF-2F-2F9XWtRtBBYRRbOT6Jjoa-2BzXxbS1KJiOlALztWZ4kgz1B02f6CSNy7h6SkLG1NBpZqea4YjGarrlmwzJzJM50KpnPZMuMJT8sQixiNZVDq4pCUnmDTVOSd551H1G2qB-2BmuTNZVBLZxt2xZdssyJDXtnv23S9c3ZUWpRmxzhal17AMfIWTs-3D">WIFR</a> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;"><a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPBYwOEyAW5Qeu635F1JyEsokJVLfaLfQZts47W1vHLKAltXH-2BJNWFhJ8xw0cesMpXWms-2FhgT9MiFcaBw1IsfKsjl7ciIikv3P4sXIk95z6ZSzrB0yqy-2BqtfdtBTd-2B-2FQGi5eC6Hi8GkTdZYOWgQOTWxY-3DM0Lq\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2iwOhEkhyy2iInJ4EHaQDjympePOucE46NXNcCMLP2cBbVh6MGv-2BomNxSaH6SaEj2KUmFEx9Rwm-2BxOXgeFMpyDRxZctvmBQJDgKFNuKJbXnJ3xI7pFhTfF8N207JTmSKjk6d6QnknQdsHWIvAO3AhCP83btqe94zPhyyjO40L-2FsSClF3UzjlbG97q-2B3NkmYaJlheHrRLHpHGPmi3Eyh4Es0-3D">Political Differences Don't End Friendships. It's Harsh Reactions That Doom Them. </a><a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPBYwOEyAW5Qeu635F1JyEsokJVLfaLfQZts47W1vHLKAltXH-2BJNWFhJ8xw0cesMpXWms-2FhgT9MiFcaBw1IsfKsjl7ciIikv3P4sXIk95z6ZSzrB0yqy-2BqtfdtBTd-2B-2FQGi5eC6Hi8GkTdZYOWgQOTWxY-3DFyCo\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2rinvSKnTAzriU41pTYyD2hS2sSHLLItVMP-2F3ekljvKObExpT6zU-2B-2Bn2G-2BKitWDJESxlKAPvKWP-2FaVPOSagRWkf6PefmljZ2mYiuaU9otUmgd8YlCIVL1uFe6mcKcOwtcIHgkOQeIdwgUUDhv7ZjM5GC03FealCtxAmJXjUS8-2B8bWl-2F0ZaGuBRaZcaU-2B-2Fa8DJzzqmwEbdMEdTaDYvtmNzgI-3D">LinkedIn</a> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;"><a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPHqYzlFhngTMk0G9-2F-2BQ1rl-2F1OHIP5GmsyjxDEZkTHkZVzye2LPOcMDanzIxYcw2TxPSdJ9U8rLj4Q9zu9O70EqHuIu1uIRb0KLatf53OJJkEc8r475fjA3pBQ1c2Q0v7c982VviRiYMgJVysE-2BuChXQ-3DeqVY\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2ugP3AlzQO6-2FKqxwXe2tqapi-2BwDICdx35wGP71uh-2BhipJ-2BjDpAp7XFPn01eAznFedtxiZ243OuhFEKszP2JFMvtMTxuaXEOQo0wDRbfrV5PdIY9muDktmFfhelwkwvtSlPl1UO5ZctwMIz2wuNxXMyXVSx5sGbZL5H-2BQs6vzdBcn8794TJC1wKZWL7E7qIP8cnyEh6bw8GFWk5DOGTd3g1o-3D">How to Approach the Holidays With People You Deeply Disagree With. </a><a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPHqYzlFhngTMk0G9-2F-2BQ1rl-2F1OHIP5GmsyjxDEZkTHkZVzye2LPOcMDanzIxYcw2TxPSdJ9U8rLj4Q9zu9O70EqHuIu1uIRb0KLatf53OJJkEc8r475fjA3pBQ1c2Q0v7c982VviRiYMgJVysE-2BuChXQ-3Dx8P2\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2oVrofZVaMEomVfOruYzCDErKI9s2YNgKhl8a9y9p7Jo5sedcq-2BeTJihdIgpFhqDiOagNjMCD5n3lz-2Fq63SGPi9MFFSq5-2BQrnkdoointTdCDMSdNwv7LgdiEGTQ-2BwzRG8KYMN7-2FdNek272taKXVfuy-2BYY2kNBfcifw2vBn973NZoebX3QRmBzUqrEc9-2FHylwuecxrt-2B4rolOKx69np5azS4-3D">NPR</a> </div> Applying the News Story <div style="mso-element: para-border-div; border-top: windowtext 1.0pt; border-bottom: windowtext 1.0pt; border-style: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; background: white;"> <p class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; border: none; mso-border-top-alt: none windowtext 0in; mso-border-bottom-alt: none windowtext 0in; padding: 0in; mso-padding-alt: 2.0pt 0in 8.0pt 0in; margin: 0in 0in 10.0pt 0in;">If you are attending a Thanksgiving dinner this week, develop a strategy for gathering with people whose views are different from your own. Decide if you will ignore political comments, speak up, disengage, or take another approach. Look to the Bible for guidance on how you can manage differences around the table. </div> The Big Questions 1. Will you be attending a Thanksgiving meal this week? What are you excited about? What worries you? What gives you stress? 2. Have you ever experienced arguments with family members or friends during the holidays? What sparked the conflict? How was it defused, if at all? 3. If you expect that political differences will be a flash point, what will you do to set boundaries or create distractions, if anything? What kind of conversation would you prefer to have, and how will you manage the conversation? 4. When have you been on the receiving end of a harsh statement, and how did you respond? When have you spoken harshly to another person, and what effect did it have on your relationship? 5. If you would like to keep Thanksgiving centered on gratitude to God, how will you maintain this focus? What benefit will come from doing this, if any? Confronting the News With Scripture and Hope Here are some Bible verses to guide your discussion: Genesis 33:10 Jacob said, "No, please; if I find favor with you, then accept my present from my hand, for truly to see your face is like seeing the face of God, since you have received me with such favor." (For context, read <a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxdxvwvUIbrGNsYJ-2B9LkHJNYWrwchS4YgSGWO6KgSEtKPMgl0lioHgflzxDhBy98Qe9jVX\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2jGOcOvPoq16xy-2BrjE1NmSCPScOk-2B5Bmk1AJdxLSUZuj6ai5Obsfdhppg5KELAIKpLbyXSjBoa-2FfUZ75c0cE5Vyu7lV-2BlDVK8sVzi-2FPStapVMPpGGSACA-2BGcMTVmcqK-2F4cextkNn3eQeoqF64EMgWixhcE5E5J5MuqQvytJ-2B7cZ2TvlNZqcwDN-2FWhY7qzqv1OJw-2B38UlWHuKpDsY5PBJOtA-3D">Genesis 33:1-17</a>.) The conflict between Esau and his twin brother Jacob began even before they were born to Isaac and Rebekah, when they "struggled together within her" (25:22). When they grew up, Jacob convinced Esau to sell him his birthright, and then later Jacob tricked his father Isaac in order to obtain the blessing that Esau deserved. To escape Esau's hatred, Jacob fled to his uncle Laban's house and married Leah and Rachel. After many years, Jacob decided to return home, but he was distressed when he heard that Esau was coming to meet him, along with 400 men. He slept alone by the river Jabbok, "and a man wrestled with him until daybreak" (32:24). Jacob prevailed in the struggle, and the man blessed him. Then Jacob said, "I have seen God face to face, yet my life is preserved" (32:30). The next morning, Jacob looked up and saw Esau coming with 400 men. Jacob bowed to the ground seven times, and was surprised when "Esau ran to meet him and embraced him and fell on his neck and kissed him, and they wept" (33:4). The passage of time had changed Esau, and he now sought reconciliation instead of revenge. At their meeting, Jacob intended to give Esau a present, but Esau said, "I have enough, my brother; keep what you have for yourself" (33:9). Jacob said, "if I find favor with you, then accept my present from my hand, for truly to see your face is like seeing the face of God, since you have received me with such favor." After struggling with God by the river, Jacob realized that seeing Esau was "like seeing the face of God." <blockquote> Questions: What does it mean to you to show favor to a friend or family member, even in a time of stress and conflict? After a time of struggle, how can our encounters with family members be like "seeing the face of God"? What attitudes toward each other can make such a vision possible? </blockquote> Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (No context needed.) The book of Proverbs contains words of wisdom and instruction for the people of Israel, with authorship credited to Solomon, the son of David and king of Israel (1:1). In the first chapter, Wisdom is personified as a woman, and she promises that "those who listen to me will be secure and will live at ease without dread of disaster" (1:33). Right speech is an important aspect of wisdom, and the 15th chapter begins by saying, "A soft answer turns away wrath," suggesting that anger will be deflected by words that are not offered with out-of-control emotion. On the other hand, "a harsh word stirs up anger," as is seen in the "harsh words" that are found in so much political discourse today. The chapter goes on to say that a "gentle tongue is a tree of life" (v. 4), the "lips of the wise spread knowledge" (v. 7), and those "who are hot-tempered stir up strife" (v. 18). In all of these proverbs, the focus is on the value of soft answers and gentle tongues, in contrast to harsh words and hot-tempered discussion. <blockquote> Questions: What might it mean to you to bring a "soft answer" to a Thanksgiving conversation? What good comes from speaking with a "gentle tongue"? What comes out of being "hot-tempered" at the table? Be specific. </blockquote> Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. (For context, read <a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxzNGX396sVFOaUcnbldjl-2BE8azP-2BOBAgEmCQ-2BTi96Absixye5cmKroe5ol1a-2FJsbazgOi\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2gS9PFvJLteerqED9RDWwpxP59tsARtk95YfX-2B2R-2F1-2FCl8or4RWilZJDtp47xXubJiFAzdBB00S0egfMBbZ3N1SseJVifQ1bN0DO80ST7QgqYvBMnkROHtIBr6mNj8Fm-2B4aF9a6-2FCqATfJhnmCdf5IYgE7oYjh-2F6glGgItvyAuoRJFOyuJNZCvLSPtRnGGZ52NyArB1R-2Br78vfet1IZPCls-3D">Philippians 4:4-7</a>.) The apostle Paul wrote this letter to the followers of Christ at Philippi, a major Greek city and colony of the Roman Empire. He was imprisoned by Rome while he wrote it, and he saw the Philippians as "partners in God's grace, both in my imprisonment and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel" (1:7). There is a warmth and sweetness in the letter which comes through when he says, "I thank my God for every remembrance of you" (1:3). Given Paul's imprisonment, the upbeat tone of the letter is surprising. "Rejoice in the Lord always," he says; "again I will say, Rejoice. Let your gentleness be known to everyone. The Lord is near" (4:4-5). Paul fully expected Jesus to return at any time, which enabled him to rejoice in all things, and to show gentleness in every stressful situation. He encouraged the Philippians by saying, "Do not be anxious about anything, but ... with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God." He predicted that the "peace of God" would guard their hearts and minds more securely than any Roman guard. <blockquote> Questions: How does a spirit of gratitude affect you, at Thanksgiving and throughout the year? What could you do to keep it at the center of the holiday? When have you found your anxiety being reduced by bringing your requests to God, if at all? How can you let your "gentleness be known to everyone"? </blockquote> James 1:19-20 You must understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger, for human anger does not produce God's righteousness. (For context, read <a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxNIqZG-2B-2B-2BvBBz5qy3Z-2Fu623Y7vXdrOk7YHuQU3mkQXWtJQmCfFOvtAbLq9qFcTpNBZ7P-\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2lVcAnELRbsAAE-2FbWhVV66ZX3zTBlHx2-2BgAQ0WPdlE9HdWvw1nncM7qKMNoskndUgF77d3CU0M1xwob0dBTOa8Lz-2BzitNrAy-2BZDrQH8uWMomu8LAPLHzLVT6FJFJeqK19khd2hLiACKN1fXI2I6GnUrzYqYgBxiXeRaDCFiVt5KUAfmBLtWxFjjN1dDNdm-2FIK-2F7DUJOogh8mXF5IW8hdc-2BE-3D">James 1:19-25</a>.) The letter of James is traditionally thought to be written by the brother of Jesus. He wrote to a group of Christ-followers who lived "in the dispersion" (1:1). They had grown up Jewish and had roots in Israel, but were now living across the Mediterranean region. James tried to encourage and guide these believers as they faced issues of proper communication and care for the poor. In the first chapter, James gives guidance for communication, encouraging people to "be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger." Echoing the book of Proverbs, he reminds them that "human anger does not produce God's righteousness." He then encourages followers of Christ to "welcome with meekness the implanted word that has the power to save your souls" (v. 21). TWW Consultant James Gruetzner writes, "I have a dear college friend who has a significantly different political persuasion than I ... When we do discuss politics, we are polite, but also straightforward in our discussions. ... That makes it much easier to retain a friendship despite disagreements: We recognize that the other is not evil -- and is, in fact, well-meaning -- but is (to each of us, respectively) mistaken -- either about the situation or the effects of the political proposal." <blockquote> Questions: What good comes from being "quick to listen" and "slow to speak"? When, if ever, is anger a positive force? When, if ever, does it work against "God's righteousness"? How can your words at Thanksgiving be aligned with God's words and God's saving work in the world? </blockquote> For Further Discussion 1. <a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPHqYzlFhngTMk0G9-2F-2BQ1rl-2F1OHIP5GmsyjxDEZkTHkZVzye2LPOcMDanzIxYcw2TxPSdJ9U8rLj4Q9zu9O70EqHuIu1uIRb0KLatf53OJJkEc8r475fjA3pBQ1c2Q0v7c982VviRiYMgJVysE-2BuChXQ-3DyQJm\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2plwdV-2B6gc1RyVGs7lYOfGYvKOoOeJy4KKpNxKWKGlDknRBzwjcglGAEn6Wol34GXtXOKbHY0FIt0LmbhAwap28Ig705z18xTzr4ECjQ9LhwOrIrKQIZqGLNkaIEMnlTsIIQkuzosthj7eYBbY0GSWCRSV9pAg-2F19e9Sx5G6s0A5aAAodq0PN64NN9szjDrSXJb4HyHBbDGJGgHlVcuBeqw-3D">NPR asks the question</a>, "How should we approach the prospect of breaking bread -- or not -- with people whose beliefs or actions sometimes seem to grate at the very core of what we believe to be right and good?" Do you opt out? Set boundaries? Find allies? Look for common ground? Or find another approach? What approach is most closely aligned with your Christian beliefs, and why? 2. There are many ways to celebrate Thanksgiving that do not involve extended conversation around a table: Express gratitude (write thank-you notes, start a gratitude jar) ... Give back (volunteer at a soup kitchen or food drive) ... Play games (Pictionary or charades) ... Watch movies or parades (watch a marathon of Thanksgiving movies or the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade). Which of these appeals to you, and how might it reduce stress? 3. Psychiatrist William Glasser has created a list of the <a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPC4kGtxMUddFv1QX0-2F7c6Z1tAhUK7GRbAR2u6JTgVvVxHEN8XZZ-2FjUD4FX2FsQ4OLcfwexEcOZEe1KvnJ5jB0qo-3D8zzO\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2gi8ti7gnxT-2FA8I6YcFMBnSJJwfidisnS9SgjxTYDDhK3hUmVDxNohf7CbB-2FCmThsQM5abxMAaBMmPauVG-2FtYzZm5-2BwnJo4BPJvI7o7gJMInxOveytmsOUeby1kSnwvWXq4l03YddCeYISZlAT2qAXxJrbknEL0vSMqk8RUT8Dq5WKLgKoVqLqJ5rSQkeXqVXPtBdtmmR19EmoJ1zpFmgFA-3D">Seven Deadly Disconnection Habits</a> which include complaining, criticizing, blaming, nagging, threatening, punishing, bribing or rewarding to control. When, if ever, have you encountered one of these behaviors at a holiday meal? How did you react? When, if ever, have you engaged in one of those behaviors, and what was the outcome? What Christian response might move the conversation from disconnection to connection? 4. The letter of James speaks of the constructive and destructive power of our words. "From the same mouth comes a blessing and a curse. My brothers and sisters, this ought not to be so" (<a href="https://u14323725.ct.sendgrid.net/ls/click?upn=u001.kR2s0BHA4IMM0a9cQYZVPIPMr3QdAndcnhgARhLxPRBMJBYCTolkbvW-2F0TosyGzxet2swTq-2BGS6FHLkXI-2BXT4p04ypEk73jsDr9OCthVXUC8uTYW-2FaU7jXadvYwh2P87-Jwa\_-2FDMt8DmC0b3MPPPEfxHbnxzgfJsbXDNMpwCP9nNwhUmwW6wkyKFLFNgtWOsfoWlqzJWknYznvBlIhQrMvSLcaZdhhbJIKGm-2F5qmCcYPIpJSn2obb9skqJf4MgaypxrLi7oLPa8a7eS7JtzjOXCCX8BHD-2F4cv9wFI-2FUH-2BL75pc25Hbh6RKf8EPZebHASiEu2b1aGXbOqJQ3Dnm6HAk92YmW3fr12cv1ZqEZzyi1ZLoIf4G5lTLxq2i-2Bc-2FJxQHMFydzqoXwa5BEIvEf-2FiBWgFz2tYvH90tSZkUKZQf1DPg6wsV3k3EMhMLUkk4b6y2AxR7FyKnnOE5-2ByDJjZFpzHwKryFm1VV5t4d8nGwnNqeO4tvPNTtu2M8W-2B6ERu5hI2wf-2BZVfVkFW-2Bg3mcwyXyAnmZdrprLjomyJhkoQdz1NTOPN7BYJ2FBczg9rhVRCJBrXaeMFNGip1DX0FO-2FEB8sxKtpaGxDwgwwoXceEvkQUcply4-3D">James 3:10</a>). What words at Thanksgiving would be a blessing to you this year? What words would feel like a curse? How can you use your mouth to bless instead of curse? Offer specific examples. Responding to the News If you gather with family and friends for Thanksgiving, look for the face of God in the person across the table from you. Use a soft answer to turn away anger. Be gentle. Bring a spirit of gratitude to the meal. Do your best to be quick to listen and slow to speak. Make your words a blessing to others, to the best of your ability. Prayer We praise you, Lord, for all of your goodness to us. You have given us more than we need or deserve. Help us to be grateful people as we celebrate Thanksgiving this week, and use us to bring peace and reconciliation to this world you love so much. In Jesus' name. Amen. 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